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thanksgiving reflection - trading, marriage, perspective

friday night after thanksgiving.

thinking about where I am.

three years ago
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november 2022.

parents still alive. barely trading. no idea what was coming.

they’d be gone in 6 weeks.

two years ago
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november 2023.

A. just moved in. still processing $28k disaster. still processing parents’ death.

things felt fragile.

one year ago
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november 2024.

finally profitable. A. and I talking about future. wedding planning starting.

things felt possible.

now
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november 2025.

married 6 months. account at $517k. ytd +17.4%.

things feel… stable?

the gratitude
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A.

she puts up with my bullshit.

the late nights. the stress. the days I’m locked in code.

she made thanksgiving dinner for 6 people like it was nothing.

her parents love her. I love her. she deserves all of it.

trading

finally figured out what works.

premium selling. patience. risk management.

$180k in lessons. but I learned.

this life

san diego. server rack in the corner. wife in the bedroom. algorithms running.

not what I expected at 22.

better.

dr R would say
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“you’re processing gratitude instead of anxiety. that’s growth.”

yeah. maybe.

still weird to feel content.

used to think contentment meant I was settling.

now I think it means I found the right thing.

tonight
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11:42pm friday. post-thanksgiving.

grateful for A. grateful for the lessons. grateful for where I am.

december next. anniversary in two weeks.

big bear cabin ready.

she has no idea.


11:42pm friday. thanksgiving reflection. three years of change - parents alive → parents gone → A. → marriage → stability. account $517k, ytd +17.4%. grateful for A., trading lessons, this life. anniversary in 2 weeks. big bear surprise ready. she has no idea.

-AK

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