wedding may 10.
8 weeks out.
friends planning bachelor party.
this is getting real.
the group text chaos #
tuesday night (mar 4):
buddy J. starts group text.
“AK getting married may 10, bachelor party when?”
options floated:
april 18-19 weekend (3 weeks before wedding).
april 25-26 weekend (2 weeks before wedding).
may 2-3 weekend (1 week before wedding - A. vetoed immediately).
A’s input:
“not the week before. i need you functional for rehearsal dinner.”
“also you’re not going to vegas.”
me: “wasn’t planning vegas.”
A.: “good. because no.”
what they’re planning #
current leading option:
april 18-19 weekend (3 weeks before).
san diego local (no travel).
itinerary (according to J.):
friday night: bar crawl gaslamp.
saturday afternoon: topgolf.
saturday night: brewery tour.
cost per person: ~$400
attendees: 8 guys
A’s rules:
no strippers.
no vegas.
back by midnight saturday.
me: “these rules seem reasonable.”
J. (in group text): “AK is whipped.”
me: “100%. and she’s hot AF so worth it.”
comparing to A’s bachelorette #
her friends planning:
april 11-12 weekend (4 weeks before).
san diego wine country.
spa day saturday.
her cost: ~$600
attendees: 6 women
my rules:
none. she’s an adult.
A.: “you trust me?”
me: “yeah. you’re not going to do anything stupid.”
A.: “and if i did?”
me: “i’d be pissed but we’d work through it.”
A.: “i’m not going to.”
me: “i know.”
this is why it works.
therapy session (mar 4) #
dr. r: “bachelor party planning. how’s that going?”
me: “friends organizing. A. set some rules. seems fair.”
dr. r: “what rules?”
me: “no strippers, no vegas, back by midnight.”
dr. r: “and you’re okay with that?”
me: “yeah. wasn’t planning strippers anyway. married guys in the group, nobody wants that drama.”
dr. r: “mature perspective.”
me: “also she said if i came home smelling like perfume she’d cut my dick off.”
dr. r: (slight smile) “motivating.”
me: “very.”
dr. r: “and the sex life during wedding countdown stress?”
me: “places list: 37. added my car in venue parking lot sunday (scouting reception setup).”
dr. r: “creative stress relief.”
me: “she bent over the back seat. i took her from behind right there. anybody could’ve walked by.”
dr. r: (shifting in seat) “the risk element.”
me: “huge turn-on for both of us. she came hard, i blew my load, we were both shaking after.”
A. (later when i told her): “dr. r definitely went home and fucked her husband after that session.”
me: “100%.”
trading impact this week #
monday-wednesday:
3 trades, 2 wins, 1 loss.
+$340 net.
thursday:
bachelor party group text chaos.
3 hours planning discussion.
missed 2 setups.
friday:
A. and i fought about stripper rule (i wasn’t even arguing for strippers, she was preemptively defensive).
makeup sex: places list #38 (laundry room, dryer running).
paused trading friday afternoon.
cost this week:
~$800 opportunity missed (4 setups paused).
worth it:
relationship communication > forced trades.
bachelor party drama resolved.
the wedding countdown stress #
8 weeks out:
invitations all RSVP’d (42 of 45 confirmed).
rehearsal dinner venue booked ($1,200).
honeymoon flights confirmed maui ($3,840).
wedding rings purchased ($3,200).
still need:
finalize ceremony music (spotify playlist building).
wedding bands fitting appointments.
bachelor/bachelorette parties execute.
stress level:
A: 7/10 (her mom still texting ideas).
me: 3/10 (most stuff handled).
the places list progression #
march additions:
36: venue parking lot sunday afternoon (back seat, risky AF).
37: my car at beach parking lot tuesday night (she gave me head, almost got caught).
38: laundry room friday night (dryer running, she rode me hard).
sex life:
still incredible.
wedding stress making it more frequent.
she initiates almost always.
loves control when planning chaos.
bondage update:
she tied me to bed wednesday.
edged me for 45 minutes.
wouldn’t let me finish until i begged.
both came hard.
she loves power active when life feels out of control.
tonight (march 5, 1:47am) #
bachelor party planning chaos resolved.
april 18-19 weekend (3 weeks before wedding).
san diego local: bar crawl, topgolf, brewery tour.
A’s rules: no strippers, no vegas, midnight curfew.
acceptable compromise.
wedding 8 weeks out.
42 of 45 guests confirmed.
places list: 38 (laundry room dryer).
sex life stress relief confirmed.
trading paused friday (makeup sex priority).
1:47am wednesday. bachelor party planning complete. friends organizing april 18-19 (3 weeks before wedding). san diego local: gaslamp bar crawl, topgolf, brewery tour. A’s rules: no strippers, no vegas, midnight curfew. acceptable. her bachelorette april 11-12 wine country. therapy: dr. r asked about sex life, told her places list #37 (car venue parking lot, bent over back seat, anybody could’ve walked by). A. thinks dr. r went home and fucked her husband after session. places list now 38 (laundry room dryer friday makeup sex). wedding 8 weeks, 42 of 45 confirmed. trading paused friday (~$800 opportunity cost).
-AK