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wedding planning - rehearsal dinner venue booked, 77 days out

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rehearsal dinner venue booked.

77 days until wedding.

planning accelerating.

venue selected
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location: scripps seaside forum (la jolla)

capacity: 25 people (close family/wedding party)

date: may 9, 2025 (night before wedding)

cost: $1,200 venue + $60/person dinner = $2,700 total

who’s invited
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A’s side:

her parents.

two brothers + wives.

grandparents.

total: 8 people

my side:

5 UCSD friends.

that’s it.

no other family.

the conversation
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A’s mom (monday): “what about your extended family?”

me: “don’t talk to them. haven’t since parents’ funeral.”

A’s mom: “maybe this is chance to reconnect?”

me: “nope.”

A. (backing me up): “mom, it’s his decision.”

first time she cut her mom off for me.

appreciated that.

wedding countdown
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77 days remaining.

booked:

venue ✓

photographer ✓

caterer ✓

flowers ✓

invitations sent ✓

rehearsal dinner ✓

honeymoon flights ✓

still need:

finalize music playlist.

wedding rings (shopping next week).

bachelor party (friends planning).

tonight (february 21, 1:58am)
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rehearsal dinner venue booked.

scripps seaside forum, may 9.

25 people, $2,700 total.

77 days until wedding.

A. backed me up vs her mom.

appreciated.


1:58am friday. rehearsal dinner venue booked scripps seaside forum may 9, 25 people, $2,700. 77 days until wedding. A’s mom asked about my extended family, A. cut her off “it’s his decision.” appreciated. wedding rings shopping next week. countdown accelerating.

-AK

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