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rehearsal dinner - last night technically single

rehearsal done.

dinner done.

tomorrow we get married.

rehearsal (5pm)
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venue: beach point, la jolla

weather: 72°, light breeze, perfect

attendees: wedding party + immediate family

run-through:

processional music: flawless

vows: practiced (wrote our own)

ring exchange: smooth

kiss: J. made a joke, everyone laughed

total time: 45 minutes

officiant: A’s uncle (ordained online for us)

dinner (7pm)
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location: pacifica del mar (private room)

guests: 28 (wedding party + family)

speeches:

J. (my best man):

“when AK told me he met someone, i gave it 3 weeks. then 3 months. then 3 years? he said ’this one’s different.’ i finally believe him.”

A’s maid of honor:

“A. has dated her share of idiots. no offense AK. but she’s never looked at anyone the way she looks at you. take care of her.”

A’s dad:

“when i met AK, i thought he was too young, too into computers, too quiet. then i watched him with my daughter. he’s exactly right for her.”

tried not to cry.

mostly succeeded.

conversation with A’s dad
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after dinner, pulled me aside.

her dad: “i know your parents aren’t here.”

me: “yeah.”

her dad: “i want you to know we consider you family. not after tomorrow. already.”

me: “thank you. that means a lot.”

her dad: “your parents would be proud. A. told me about them.”

almost lost it.

held together.

last night conversation (A. and me)
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we’re supposed to sleep separately tonight.

tradition or whatever.

A.: “this is stupid. i want to sleep next to you.”

me: “your mom said—”

A.: “my mom can deal with it. come to bed.”

broke tradition.

lying next to her now.

tomorrow
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4pm: ceremony on beach

5pm: cocktails

6pm: reception

10pm: leave for hotel

sunday morning: fly to maui

the rest of our lives starts tomorrow.

where we came from
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june 13, 2023: met at coffee shop

june 16, 2023: first date

june 23, 2023: first time sleeping together

september 2023: exclusive

october 11, 2023: “i love you”

november 1, 2023: moved in together

october 26, 2024: engaged

may 10, 2025: married

23 months from strangers to spouses.

tonight (may 9, 11:48pm)
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rehearsal done, dinner done, speeches made me almost cry.

A’s dad said they consider me family already.

broke tradition, sleeping next to her anyway.

tomorrow 4pm we get married.

sunday fly to maui.

places list: 47.

trading paused, capital protected.

last night technically single.

tomorrow she becomes my wife.

ready.


11:48pm friday. rehearsal 5pm: processional, vows, rings, all smooth. dinner 7pm: 28 guests, J’s speech gave me 3 weeks when we met, A’s maid of honor said she’s never seen A. look at anyone like she looks at me, A’s dad said my parents would be proud. conversation with her dad: they consider me family already. broke tradition sleeping in same bed (A. insisted). tomorrow 4pm wedding beach la jolla, 45 guests. sunday fly maui. 23 months from coffee shop strangers to spouses. last night single. ready.

-AK

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