wednesday night at A.’s place.
we slept together.
fucking incredible.
the night #
she cooked dinner (chicken pasta, way better than anything i can make).
we ate on her balcony (she lives in north park, 1BR with view).
after dinner: wine, couch, talking about her work project.
then she kissed me.
the important part #
not sharing details but: she knows what she’s doing.
way better than J. or any of the tinder girls from march/april.
stayed over. left her place at 6am thursday morning.
what makes this different #
previous girls:
- J.: slept together first date, got clingy immediately after
- M.: never got there (therapy waiting room girl, too intense)
- tinder hookups: good but zero connection
A.:
- waited 12 days (unusual for me)
- actual connection before sex
- she’s 23, more experienced, confident
- not clingy after (texted me thursday afternoon: “last night was fun. see you this weekend?”)
way healthier fluid.
prediction update #
original prediction: 2-3 months
new prediction: 4-6 months minimum
might be longer if she stays this cool.
therapy update #
seeing Dr. R friday morning (tomorrow).
going to tell her about A. and how it’s going.
Dr. R will probably say “don’t rush into labeling it” or some shit like that.
she’s not wrong though. taking it slow is working.
trading thursday #
was distracted thursday morning (tired from staying at A.’s).
still made one trade: TLT call spread +$325.
june total: +$2,840
goal was $3,000. need $160 more.
hitting it tomorrow (friday) easily.
mental state #
good. really fucking good.
dating someone smart and hot and not clingy.
trading going well. june goal basically done.
systems working. life is simple.
no random crying about parents this week. feeling stable.
weekend plans #
seeing A. saturday night (her idea).
might take her to belmont park or just hang at my place.
she wants to see more of my trading setup (hasn’t seen the chicago colo dashboard yet).
sunday: debugging crypto bot (paused it tuesday, need to fix logic).
comparison to previous relationships #
J. at 2 weeks in:
- texting me 50 times per day
- wanted to define relationship
- getting jealous about other girls
- crying when i didn’t respond fast enough
A. at 2 weeks in:
- texts once or twice per day
- has her own life (work, friends, hobbies)
- zero jealousy or clinginess
- confident and independent
night and fucking day difference.
this is what healthy looks like.
4:27am friday. slept with A. wednesday night. she’s incredible. this might actually last.
-AK