took A. to sushi in la jolla last night.
best first date i’ve had in a year.
the date #
picked her up at 7pm (she lives in north park).
wore black henley and jeans. she wore sundress, looked incredible.
drove to nobu in la jolla. expensive but worth it for first date.
the conversation #
talked for 3 hours straight.
her background:
- grew up in orange county
- studied marketing at SDSU
- started at tech startup 8 months ago (series B, ~80 employees)
- loves data analysis side of marketing
python connection is real:
she showed me dashboard she built in streamlit for tracking campaign performance.
actual code. not bullshit “i took a python class once.”
trading questions:
asked smart shit:
- “what’s your biggest edge?”
- “how do you handle overnight risk with options?”
- “have you backtested through 2020 covid crash?”
not trying to impress me. actually curious.
physical chemistry #
held hands walking after dinner.
kissed her at her door. she kissed back hard.
me: “want to do this again?”
her: “obviously”
comparison to other girls #
J.: hot but clingy, wanted relationship after 2 weeks
M.: therapist waiting room girl, too intense about my parents dying
A.: hot, smart, independent, not clingy, actual shared interests
this one might last past 2 months.
red flags check #
looked for red flags. found zero.
- not clingy (didn’t text me 47 times today)
- has her own life (friends, hobbies, career)
- not trying to fix me (didn’t bring up grief or therapy)
- financially independent (pays her own rent, has career)
only potential issue: she’s 23, i’m 19. 4 year gap.
doesn’t feel weird though. we vibe.
therapy session earlier #
saw Dr. R thursday morning before date.
told her about A. and how i’m trying not to idealize early.
Dr. R: “you seem more grounded this time”
me: “learned my lesson with J. not doing that again”
Dr. R: “good. take it slow. see who she actually is not who you want her to be”
tried to apply that advice on date.
A. is who she is. smart, confident, independent.
not projecting shit onto her.
next date #
seeing her sunday afternoon.
going to la jolla cove, then cooking at my place.
she wants to see the server rack (actual quote: “i need to see this dell setup in person”).
yeah she’s definitely into tech stuff.
trading this week #
been distracted by A. but trading still going well.
june total: +$1,820 (through thursday)
on track for $3k goal.
vol detection continues working. blocked 4 more trades this week that would’ve lost.
mental state #
good. really good.
excited about A. but not obsessive.
trading going well.
systems working.
life is simple and i like it.
2:55am friday. first date was perfect. seeing her again sunday. not fucking this up.
-AK