wednesday therapy session.
A. was in waiting room when i arrived.
she had appointment right before mine.
the awkward part #
walked into waiting room. A. sitting there on couch.
me: “uh… hey”
her: “wait, you see Dr. R too?”
me: “yeah. wednesdays at 2pm”
her: “i have wednesdays at 1pm”
we both see same therapist. different time slots.
Dr. R’s reaction #
Dr. R came out to get me.
saw A. and me talking.
Dr. R: “oh. you two know each other?”
me: “yeah, we’re dating”
Dr. R: “well this is interesting”
her professional face stayed neutral but i could tell she was amused.
what A. told me after #
we grabbed coffee after my session.
her: “so… we both see Dr. R”
me: “yeah. small world”
her: “i’ve been seeing her for 6 months. started after breakup with ex”
me: “i’ve been seeing her since february. started after my parents died”
her: “that makes sense. she’s really good”
me: “yeah she is”
the funny part #
A: “did you know Dr. R is hot? like really hot?”
me: “yeah. noticed that first session”
A: “i thought i was the only one who thought that”
me: “nah. she’s a 10. dresses provocatively too”
A: “right? the tight dresses? i thought maybe i was imagining it”
both of us noticed. both thought we were weird for noticing.
turns out everyone notices.
Dr. R probably knew #
thinking back: Dr. R asked about A. in my sessions.
A. probably talked about me in her sessions.
Dr. R knew we were dating the whole time.
just didn’t say anything (confidentiality).
what this means #
pros:
- A. is working on herself (therapy = emotional maturity)
- we both value mental health
- Dr. R already knows both sides of relationship
cons:
- scheduling conflict (both want wednesday afternoons)
- weird that same person hears both perspectives
verdict: not a dealbreaker. actually kind of cool.
rescheduling solution #
A. offered to move her slot to tuesdays.
me: “you don’t have to do that”
her: “i know. but wednesdays work better for you with trading schedule”
considerate AF. green flag.
therapy session content #
told Dr. R about the redis caching (she pretends to understand my tech shit).
also talked about A. and how it’s going well.
Dr. R: “you seem more stable this month”
me: “yeah. trading profitable, dating someone healthy, systems working”
Dr. R: “good. keep doing what you’re doing”
trading update #
monday 6/26: +$200 (SPX call spread) tuesday 6/27: +$315 (TLT put spread) wednesday 6/28: no trades (vol spike)
june final total: +$3,800 (beat $3k goal by $800)
weekend plans with A #
seeing her saturday night.
she wants to cook again (her cooking > my cooking by far).
probably staying over at her place.
things are good. really fucking good.
mental state #
stable. consistent. happy.
2 profitable trading months.
healthy relationship with smart independent girl.
both seeing therapist (same one, hilariously).
grief about parents mostly manageable.
life is working right now.
2:08am thursday. found out A. and i see same therapist. awkward but funny. she’s moving her slot to tuesdays.
-AK